The Pocket Full of Quarters Lady
The Sh’ma: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind; and, Love your neighbor as yourself. Luke 10:27 NIV
Does your soul need soothing? Chances are, if you are in chronic pain, it does. Chronic pain is a soul distraction. It screams so loudly that it is difficult to hear the Still Small Voice of God. I know from experience how hard it is to love God with your entire soul when you hurt so badly that pain consumes you. If you allow it, pain will literally steal your soul. Every thought, feeling, response, and action becomes about identifying the cause and treating the symptoms of pain. In short, you lose the essence of who you are as your soul bows to the demanding god of chronic pain. Below are signs that chronic pain is consuming your soul:
- People close to you are tired of hearing about your pain.
- You wonder if anyone cares that you are hurting.
- You are taking so much medicine that you have trouble focusing thoughts.
- Your body is growing lumpy bumpy from inactivity and/or an excess of food.
- Your sleep patterns are disrupted – from too much or too little sleep.
- You have waning interest in things of the spirit – personal time with God, Bible Study, or church.
- You feel hopeless that things will ever change.
- Every activity revolves around how you expect your physical condition to be.
Do you know who and whose you are? You are not your pain. You are a child of God, loved by God. Your soul is the essence of who you are. You may be a person in pain but the pain is not who you are. Force yourself to think about yourself in relationship to the people around you and your joys, responsibilities, and dreams. As a young mother in her twenties, I had much to look forward to but all I could think about was my health. It felt like my life was over but that was a lie. Now, thirty years later, I live a full and productive life. I was able to go back to college and get an MBA, run a successful software company, and now am in full time ministry. I did all that while soaring at my roles as mother, wife, and now grandmother. How did that happen? It happened because God had plans for me that I could not see all those years ago. Let yourself dream again and take baby steps toward those dreams every day. Assume those dreams are God given and will be fulfilled. Let hope replace hopelessness. Remember who and whose you are.
Soul Soother #1: Separate Yourself From Pain and Remember Who and Whose You Are
Before I could even think about hearing the voice of God and fulfilling His plans for me, I had to release all other gods. Because I was in pain, doctors freely offered prescription drugs. I didn’t feel like moving so I stayed in bed. I ate out of boredom and to avoid feeling my disappointment with life. In short, drugs, food, and inactivity had become false gods. I was a Christian who had no idea how many other gods she had put before the one true God.
Soul Soother #2: Be Honest About What Is Coming Between You and God
The first thing I did was to start eating correctly. I stopped eating all unnecessary or unhealthy food, eliminated foods that triggered food cravings (like high fats, sugars, and processed flour,) and joined a support group to help me deal with food addiction.
I explained to my doctor that while I wanted medicine to help my body heal, I no longer wanted mood altering addictive drugs. I was amazed at how much better I felt just from putting down pain killers. It turned out that my body was producing many symptoms just to keep me addicted to prescription drugs. When I stopped masking symptom, I was able to notice and respond to what foods and activities helped and hurt and over time, I improved. I also learned techniques that helped mentally block pain.
Stop Drugs That Are Only Masking Symptoms
While we will talk more about moving our bodies in the next article, there was a spiritual component to deciding to start moving my body again. Since I didn’t feel like moving, I stayed in bed or on the couch way too much. I realized that inactivity had become a false god. The evil voice that whispered the condemning words, “Stay in bed,” wasn’t healthy and had to be fired. I went to physical therapy to learn safe techniques for improving pain. I got out of bed and began living life again. Over time, my desire to stay still left.
Start Moving Again
The most important thing I did to improve my situation was to develop a close personal relationship with God. I’d been a Christian since I was 8 but it wasn’t until 1979 that I began to spend disciplined time with God. A spiritual mentor instructed me to spend thirty minutes a day in meditation, prayer, and Bible Study. I had young children so I needed help reaching that goal. I explained to a dubious husband that we were both getting up earlier each morning and that he had “parent duty” for thirty minutes every morning. Now, thirty years later, I testify to the fact that my relationship with God has grown sweeter every day. I do hear that Small Still Voice and obeying that voice led me to being the productive person God intended me to be. As I write this, I am aware that my pain level today is a little high for me – a 4 out of 10. We recently moved and are in the middle of the Christmas season so I know stress and heavy lifting is contributing to increased pain levels. I will stretch, spend time with God, keep eating right, and in a few days, the pain will drop back down to a more manageable 1-2 out of 10. What I won’t do today is go back to bed. It won’t help and in fact, would make it worse. Two side benefits came out of my disciplined time with God:
Soul Soother #3: Worship God
My children grew up watching their mother spend daily time with God and saw the results of that. We also become more active in a church that had a major impact on their lives. Now, they have a close relationship with God. My daughter is in ministry and my son teaches a Bible Study. They both are active in church.
Side Benefit 1: My Children Developed a Closer Relationship with Their Heavenly Father
In the 70’s, moms still took care of most childcare responsibilities. My children have a closer relationship with their dad because of that focused time with him every morning.
Side Benefit 2: My Children Developed a Closer Relationship With Their Earthly Father
God has plans for you that include hope and a future. Listen to those plans carefully and do what He says. Those plans start with separating who you are from the pain you are in. Do what it takes to surrender false gods and spend time every day getting to know the one true God better. The previous articles on this blog deal with improving pain and related depression by loving God with your mind and heart. The next 2 articles will discuss pain and how you can reduce it by loving God with your strength and loving your neighbor as yourself. Until then, sooth your soul by:
- Spending disciplined time in meditation, prayer, and Bible study.
- Learning the difference between what helps healing and what simply masks symptoms and refocus all energy on what heals.
- Getting help for addictions.
- Making and reading daily a list of who you are in relationship with and your joys, responsibilities, and dreams.